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Forgive me for my absence, I know it has been a while. I’ve had several personal hurdles that I’ve had to overcome over the past year and let’s just say I’m not the best at track & field. Get ready as you may soon rejoice, for I am back.  I decided to bring Split Mentality back to its roots.  I felt the blog had developed several identities, oddly enough none of which I really felt were my own.

How to travel the world

How to Travel the World – Backpacking 101

How to Travel the World

Have you ever wondered how to travel the world? Have you had the urge but just simply don’t know where to start?  Enter the eBook “Backpacking 101” by Nick Darlington, a world traveler with a dream.  Nick like many adults felt complacent in his current life.  Working your standard 9-5 job and making a decent salary was just not cutting it for him. After months of planning, Nick finally took the leap and traveled the world, documenting his travels and experiences.

“If you feel fear about something, it generally means you are headed in the right direction…” – Nick Darlington

Download the eBook “Backpacking 101” How to travel the world — FREE!

Backpacking 101  by Nick Darlington

This eBook provides you a wealth of healthy tips on how to travel the world

The ebook will inspire you and teach you how to overcome fear and how to travel the world. The ebook provides several tips and helpful information around the entire traveling process.

  • Mindset. What mindset should you have to have the most enjoyable experience?
  • Planning: How much planning should you do?
  • Funding: How do you travel for an extended period of time?
  • Gear and Equipment: How to Pack? What gear and equipment should you not compromise on?
  • Technology: What Technology is at your disposal to make your life easier?
  • Miscellaneous: We look at all those other things that we could not compartmentalise into neat little boxes.

If you feel the urge to travel, maybe now is the time for you to start preparing

In his eBook, Nick mentions a process called mental tattooing.  It’s a very powerful mental process that helps prevent you from backing out of your decisions.  In order to  cement his decision to travel, Nick booked his flight well in advance with non-refundable tickets. By doing so, he reduced the chance of his subconscious voice telling him not to go.

Hopefully “Backpacking 101″and this article inspire you to start taking positive steps in your desire to travel.

a man trouble getting started and problems with perfection

Trouble getting started & problems with perfectionism

In positive form, perfectionism can drive you to excel, succeed, reach goals and push the limits of your creative boundaries. In toxic form, it can push you to depression, anxiety and frustrate your day-to-day interests by creating more problems.

Let me introduce you to a friend of mine named Ben.  Ben is a great, extremely talented and creative individual. He always will reach out to me with his “next great idea”. He has great ideas and I’m always interested in hearing what he has to say.  These ideas are exceptional in nature–typically they range from a unique product idea or some type of new growth opportunity he seeks for himself.  There is, however, a caveat. Ben puts the except in exceptional.  In that, he does everything except follow through with his new idea. (Sorry Ben!)

So why doesn’t Ben follow through with any of his ideas?

He has trouble getting started because of his problems with perfectionism.

There’s an elephant in the room, and Ben is trying to eat the entire animal in one bite.  No man can eat an entire elephant in one bite, you have to take small bites and chew. This philosophy applies to our everyday life. When Ben looks up at the top of the mountain he quits because he sees how tall the mountain is that he has to climb. What he should be looking at is the step in front of him that will get him to the next step.  By viewing the mountain as a series of steps he will accomplish a set of milestones that will get him to the top.

Guess what though folks, you can have your perfectionist cake and eat it too.

Case study: Ben wanted to create a fitness blog because he was very into living a healthy lifestyle.

pexels-photo (1)Like many with a new idea, Ben thought how wonderful it would be to have a thriving fitness blog surrounded by a community and content that he thoroughly enjoyed himself. Seems like a no-brainer, right? It was, but the blog never got started. Ben committed several fatal flaws that kept his plane landed on the ground. Ben thought the blog needed a cool design.  He became obsessed with the thought of good design but couldn’t find a template he liked. He decided he would just design it himself.  Great idea, except, well, Ben doesn’t really know how to develop a WordPress theme.  “Didn’t matter, the website must have a great design” he thought to himself.

Where he went wrong:

  • Blogs are about content.  People come to your blog for your content, not your blog design! There are many ugly blogs out there and people don’t come to your blog because of your design.
  • Instead of building a step towards his goal, he built a 30 ft brick wall that he would have to climb over. Ben placed so much emphasis on having the perfect design theme that his blog literally never even came in to existence. He was so caught up in the design that it prevented him from starting.

What he could have done:

  • Iterate (progress over time) to perfectionism. This is THE hidden gem of success. Get started first, and then tweak as you go, making things better over time.  I also have a very perfectionist nature, and this has helped me immensely.  Start with something basic, and improve it later.  Just start.
  • Don’t get caught up on things you can improve later.  Is there a checkbox somewhere that says “thou shall not ever change this, ever, ever ever?”  No, there never is.  You own what you do, and you can always modify, iterate, and improve at a later time. As I mentioned in where Ben went wrong, the design was perhaps the least important part of the goal he was trying to accomplish.  Ben was trying to create a fitness blog with quality content and a community around that blog. Sounds to me like all he had to do was just get a blog up and running and start writing.  Instead of taking micro-actions towards his goal he barricaded himself before the blog even started.

Iterating towards perfectionism is a recipe for success.

  • Think about something that is frustrating you or overwhelming you at the moment that you want to get done.  Itemize the list based on which ones can be improved at a later day.  (You may notice it might be all of them). Good!
  • Cement it in your head that nothing is permanent and that everything can be changed later. Force a mantra in your head that says “good enough for now, I can improve on it later”.
  • When you are overwhelmed you lose focus. Don’t get caught up on things you can revisit later on, especially if they’re not immediately relevant to the task at hand. Chances are when you revisit it later you can give it the full attention it deserves, and, therefore, will yield a more positive outcome.
  • You can have your perfectionist cake and eat it too. Getting your mind used to iteration will make you feel more accomplished on a regular basis, and you can still make things “perfect” later on!
  • Perhaps the most important step of all:  just get started! Projects and people fail most commonly because the person never even took one step.  Action displaces fear, remember that.

What’s your recipe for mitigating perfectionism?  I’d love to hear about it!

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“What is our purpose?” What’s the answer?

We’ve all had that morning–we wake up, look at the ceiling, flail our legs and arms in frustration and throw the cover back over our heads.

We all do it, especially on days where we’re unhappy or not looking forward to doing something.  There are some days where we just struggle to find purpose in getting up.  Some days we simply just don’t want to get up and follow the day’s routine.It was this action one morning that made me question what purpose really is.

What drives us to actually wake up and do the things we are supposed to do? Besides the responsibilities of paying for our bills and caring for our loved ones, what other reasons do we really have? This thought process led me down quite the rabbit hole. Beyond purpose, I started to question our existence. Why are we here? What is the reason we are here and what are we supposed to be doing? These are both intriguing and toxic questions. They make us feel empowered and helpless all at the same time. The magic behind not knowing the answers to these questions leaves us with both a sense of mysticism and purgatory.

We don’t really know what our reason for existence is, or if there really even is a reason.  We don’t know why we’re here, or how we got here. We don’t even know what here really is! We don’t know what our purpose is as humanity. We are left in a maze of our own existentialism. Whether our personal dogmatic belief lies in the realm of science, divine creation or what have you we ultimately don’t have an answer to these questions. We continue to grow as a human race it seems for no other reason than…well… there’s nothing else to do so we might as well evolve. As humans at our core we are programmed with a basic instinct to survive, but other than that why do we proceed down the path? Why are are we programmed to move forward? As I thought on this topic I could not come up with any logical reason as to why we move forward as a human race.  Other than survival what is the reason for our rationalization?

It was then I realized perhaps I am asking the wrong question– or better yet–perhaps I shouldn’t be asking a question at all.

It is my personal belief that human beings are here for no other reason than to create purpose.

Ahh, now we’re getting somewhere. Instead of asking a question consisting mostly of dark matter I am now making a statement that can be validated. When we die, the world as we know it does not skip a beat. The forces within our universe continue without knowledge of our passing. The only thing we truly leave behind is the legacy of the purpose we created. When I say the legacy of purpose I am speaking beyond your daily career and the fatum of meeting your significant other. We cannot wake up searching for a purpose, instead, we must wake up with the intent of creating purpose. Taking it a step further I am not insisting that in order to create purpose you must be the next Elon Musk or Bill Gates. In fact, I am saying quite the opposite.  Everything we do each day we do it with the fundamental yet unconscious desire to create purpose. We try to give meaning to everything we do. We create purpose. We are defining purpose.

Are you one of those people who always asks why things happen to them?  Why do or don’t good things happen?  Perhaps it’s because we stop looking outward to the universe for answers and instead create the purpose from within. We need to stop asking life what purpose is and instead tell the world what our purpose we are creating.  By creating purpose, we validate ourselves and our humanity. By creating purpose, we architect the design of our lives and every intricate interaction around us.

The ability to create purpose is mankind’s most magnificient power.

Is the passionate career becoming a myth?

The passionate career is a myth.  Stop ruining your passions by forcing them into career archetypes.

Let me ask you a question. Do you like to go out to the bar or occasionally spend a night on the town? I know I do.  Does that mean that just because I like going to the bar I should work at one professionally? How about a co-worker who enjoys baking cakes? Because she enjoys baking is she then supposed to go and open a bakery? The answer is no. Unless of course you really want to. Why do we feel the need to link things we enjoy with things we get paid to do for work?

The issue many of us face is that we are trying to associate passion with a career.
Have you ever picked up a hobby like playing the piano, graphic design or mixing music and since abandoned it because it wasn’t really in your career interest? I know I have. It doesn’t have to be that way.  We seem to be evaluating our interests in black and white, do or don’t.  (If you truly struggle with one career, in general, you may possibly have a split mentality.) Taking things a step further why do think it is that we lose interest in a passion once we transform it into a career? My answer: we associate something we once enjoyed as now being something that requires work. When we associate something as being work or chore-like we ultimately lose interest.  I don’t think I’ve met one person that has remarked “I can’t WAIT to go home and clean my entire house.”

Have you ever heard the phrase:
“oh, you just haven’t found your passion yet…?”

I seem to notice a common theme developing amongst millennials and people who are trying to link something they are passionate about with something they want to do for their career. The end result is often loss of interest and abandoned passion.  To me, this is a very sad thing. More and more millennials are beginning to fear singularity, the thought of just one career choice that defines them for the rest of their life. Due to this looming fear, they abandon interests they would otherwise enjoy.

Why is it we assume we must be passionate with our careers?

“You spend 33% of your life sleeping and 33% of your life working, so get a good bed and get a good job.” – a former boss

This quote sets the precedence that we are all destined to find a mythical job that we are incredibly passionate about.  This implies that somehow magically we are going to love getting stuck in traffic working 50 hour weeks, regardless of the trade.  As long as we are passionate, no problem, right? Hogwash. The reality is work is work, and it always will be work. Some just enjoy working more than others. For those who do claim they greatly enjoy their jobs, it’s usually related to how the job makes them feel, not about the actual work it takes to get there.  For example, a photographer doesn’t really enjoy editing photos, they enjoy the amazing end-product that is a result from his or her hard work.

Since the late 1990s, Gallup has been measuring worldwide employee satisfaction across 25 million employees in 189 different countries. The results are astounding.

  • 32.1% of workers are engaged in their company
    Only 1 out of 3 employees contribute in a positive manner to their company.
  • 51% of employees are actively considering a new job
    1 out of 2 people is not passionate about their current job.
  • 93% of adults left their current employer to change roles
    Only 7% of employees look within their current organization for advancement.  Yikes!
  • 70% of employees are not influenced by their immediate management team
    I’ve always said that employees leave their managers, not their jobs.
  • 38% of managers properly set expectations for their workers.
    This means that 62% of managers are not setting a precedence for proper employee engagement.
  • 25% of all college graduates are not being equipped for workplace success.
    1 out of 4 adults will not be prepared for the workforce despite a lengthy college career and expensive tuition.

Source: Gallup

Why can’t we just separate work and passion into the verticals they belong? Work is work, passion is passion.  Why are we forced to marry the two?

Before you huff and puff let me premise by saying I’m not advising anyone to work at a career they don’t enjoy.  If you have to invest 33% of your life working you should want to enjoy it as best possible. The point I am making is that when we try to marry both passion and work we often come up disappointed. We feel lost in the pursuit of happiness. We give up on our childlike inhibitions and choose a career that’s acceptable to makes ends meet. We feel ostracized when we see happy people around enjoying their careers. What are we doing wrong?

There are a number of reasons we ultimately find ourselves lacking passion for what we do in our career:

  • We romanticize careers
    Just like our favorite movies we play the workforce as a dream sequence in our mind. We envision ourselves merrily spinning in a field holding hands with a career we are truly happy with. This is not reality, but hey, it’s always nice to dream.
  • It’s called work for a reason; they pay you to do it
    The definition of workthe result of exertion, labor, or activity; a deed or performance. Funny, I didn’t see the words passion, happiness or enjoyment in there anywhere. Did you? So why are we shoving the word passion into the word work?
  • Life obstacles make leaving a financially stable life for passion difficult
    Many people have homes, families and other financial obligations that cement them in their career choices at times unwillingly. Leaving their career for something they might actually enjoy is more of a novelty thought than an actionable life choice.

I’d like to reiterate that I’m not telling anyone they shouldn’t like their careers.  What I am really saying is stop ruining your passions by forcing them into careers.

I’d like to hear what you have to say on this matter.  The forum is open on my comments section below, or you can drop me a line on Facebook or Twitter!

Down on your luck? Re-think today

Lately, I feel like the universe is conspiring against me.

We’ve all felt this way before. That feeling where nothing seems to work out, and you can never seem to catch a break. Whether it be our relationships or where we stand financially, there are times when we worry we carry more weight than we think we can hold. I woke up this morning with a raincloud of doom and gloom. One of my projects I’d been working on wasn’t operating as well as I’d hoped. “Why can’t something just work in my favor for ONCE?” I yelled to myself. Woe is me. I laid in bed with fussy child-like misery for about 30 minutes before grumpily getting up for the day.

I hopped in the shower and continued to feed my storm cloud affliction. “Why don’t things ever just work for me?” “Why can’t things just go well for once?” Then something happened and it was quite the “aha!” moment. I found myself answering my own question immediately. “Stop whining. Are you really trying as hard as you possibly can to make things succeed?” It was if I left my body, smacked myself in the face and returned. It dawned on me that I really wasn’t doing everything in my power to make things work.

Was I really doing everything I could to make things work?

“If you feel you are down on your luck, check the level of your effort.” — Robert Brault

Have you ever met someone who thinks the world owes them something for nothing? I’m sure you have. I was being one of those people and hated that I was. I was sulking because I had not achieved the success I thought I would in such a short time period. I was emitting cries of “Why?” into the response-less abyss. I was discouraged and intentionally self-sabotaging myself at the onset of difficulty. I was placing blame everywhere except for one logical place: myself.

My total level of effort was dismal in comparison to what I could have really done.
I didn’t really put as much blood, sweat, and tears into my efforts as I was giving myself credit for. In fact, I’d say quite the opposite. I created a minimal level goal of effort to what I thought would achieve success. That minimal level goal clearly was not nearly enough. So then what else could I do?

I interviewed myself. I asked several simple questions:

  • Is there anything I could be doing to make my situation better? Even if it’s just one or two small things?
  • Besides everything, can I be more specific to what isn’t working? Can I more effectively pinpoint my pain point(s)?
  • Am I really looking at this from the right perspective? Can I look at it from someone else’s point of view and try to put a positive spin on the scenario?

The funny part was I came up with answers to all of these questions almost instantly. No wonder you’re not succeeding, knucklehead! I was operating inside my comfort level instead of approaching things from every angle. If you can’t find an answer to any of these questions keep digging. You have not yet found your angle. There is always something more you can do.

Do you feel like you are down on your luck? Perhaps today is a great day to re-evaluate what luck is.

“Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.” – Abraham Lincoln

Simply stated, the best results come from those who act. I created a new plan of attack and modified my goals. Am I going to succeed after modifying my efforts? Possibly, but every inch closer is better than where I started. What I can tell you is that walking around in self-misery with a rain cloud will do you no benefit. Unless you were born a prodigy who learned piano by 5, chances are you operate just like everyone else. We improve by learning from what we’ve done wrong.

Don’t get me wrong, though! Sometimes there are days where we just have bad luck. You stub your toe on the coffee table sending your body into a tornado-like motion that knocks over your coffee and everything on the counter. Subsequently you hit every red light on the way to work while simultaneously getting stuck behind a school bus and an elderly person driving below the speed limit. These are things we simply cannot control. We can learn from these occurrences once they become patterns. We can throw that wretched coffee table into a firepit, or we could take a different route to work the next day.

By improving our pain points, we can change our so called “luck” for the better.

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The SECRET to making money while you sleep

You will never become rich working a 9-5  job.

Hear me out on this. How much is your time worth to you? The reality is those of us who work 40-80 work weeks seldom have time to do anything other than drink wine and complain. Regardless of the salary we make, time is both the ultimate currency and investment. It is something we can give but never gain.   If we are working 80% of the time and living 20% of the time guess what? Our model for living life is broken. This needs to change.

Which of these two options would you choose?

  1. You can work one job for 50 hours per week and make a salary of $90,000
  2. You work 1-2 hours per week and make $40,000 overnight while you sleep.

I’m a little scared to ask you which option you would choose, but if it were me I’d choose number 2.  Why is number 2 the optimal model for success?  Because, it takes your time out of the equation.  You have designed a model that literally makes you money while you do nothing.

The only people that can become rich working a standard career are specialists such as doctors, lawyers, scientists and so on.  For the majority, these people have  dedicated the greater part of a decade to receive this type of compensation. Again, how much is your time worth to you? Although we have methods of accumulating wealth such as IRAs and 401Ks we are not able to maximize on these until years later. The formula for becoming rich is simple: make money while investing as little of your own time as possible.

Grow rich by creating more time for yourself.

Don’t get me wrong, if you handed me $500 million dollars right now I’d take it.  But I would guess that the majority of us don’t inherently care about being monetarily rich.  What we do care about is having the financial freedoms to do whatever it is that we want to do. We want to travel, spend time with family, try new activities and do so all in a comfortable financial manner. We also care about relieving the stress and pain points that money creates for us in our everyday lives.

Creating this type of lifestyle is not as hard as you think; the answers are all around you.

Here are some essential recommendations to get you started:

  1. Stop making excuses and false prioritizations for yourself
    This is the first step and arguably the most important.  Stop making excuses for anything and everything. There is never a right time in your life to start something new. Stop talking about doing something and just start doing it.  Take action, whether small or large.  Micro-actions will displace your fear and inner demons. Nothing in life is permanent, and you really won’t lose anything by trying.  The fear of acting is far greater than the fear of inaction. Focus and take action.
  2. Stop assuming you need to be an expert at anything you want to do or sell
    You don’t need to be Thomas Edison.  There are people all around you in this world with great ideas. There will always be someone smarter, better and faster than you. Guess what, who cares? If someone else has a great idea just jump on board with them!  If you don’t know anyone, go out and find someone!  More often than not the most highly profitable items are just simple things that improve our everyday lives. I can’t tell you how much time I wasted trying to think of “the next best thing” or some million dollar idea. This is almost always a dead-end road.
  3. Eradicate singularity
    As I mentioned in bullet 2, stop looking for the singular best idea or product in the world.  Although one great product could make you a great deal of money, people who become wealthy do so by multiple channels and lines of income.  Take the TV show Shark Tank, for example, the sharks on this show don’t go all in on one product and end the show do they?  No.  They diversify their investments in several different ideas, companies and products.
  4. Sell something simple that you can create in a week or less
    Sell something small and simple. Do you know a lot about a particular interest or topic? Can you write a small book, create a training course or provide a product of some sort? Let me give you an example. A friend of mine owns several rental properties. Over the course of several years, he brought his rental lease to several different lawyers to make sure it was air and water tight. A light bulb when off in my head.  I approached my friend and asked, “Why don’t you sell your lease to other landlords?”  And with that, The Ironclad Lease was born. The point I am trying to make here is that you really don’t have to be an expert on anything to realize a good idea when you see one. 
  5. Explore your interests to find something you can make money off
    While I could deep-dive into how to explore and identify all your passions, there is someone who has already done this better than myself. Emilie Wapnick, author of The Renaissance Business explains in great detail how to dissect your passions and recreate them as a successful online business. I highly recommend you purchase her book and learn more about how to create a successful business in no time online.

Create an income model that makes you money while you sleep

The bottom line here is that creating a business model that makes you money while you sleep is the best possible way to generate income. Create a business model that takes your personal time out of the equation. Most operate on fixed hourly or salaried income.  This income model is fixed, and perhaps the worst method of creating financial freedom for ourselves.



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Top 5 Tips for Managing Clutter

Clutter is to the mind is like hair is to the drain, and when it overflows it’s all bad.

What happens when a drain becomes clogged? Stuff just overflows. What happens when our minds become cluttered?  We stop being productive.  We lose focus. We burn ourselves out or procrastinate tasks often leaving us with little to nothing done. It’s all bad. Managing clutter is more difficult than just saying I will do better next time. Clutter is deceptive.  It starts small and much like a virus it begins to spread.  So how do we manage clutter more efficiently?

  1. Physical clutter adds to mental clutter

    Having things in disarray physically around us can aggravate and add to the mental clutter.  Perform a small action item to reduce some of this physical clutter. Start as small as you’d like.  Move that tea cup mug to the sink or get rid of that soda can that has been sitting in that one spot for over four months. I suggest to aim at a specific small task that has been nagging at you forever but for whatever reason you have chosen to neglect it.

  2. Prevent clutter from stacking or else you will feel overwhelmed

    Make an effort to prevent clutter from building up. This isn’t rocket science, but it happens to us all the time. Clutter is nothing more than several small things being neglected that compound over time.  You can solve for clutter just as it is created.  Is it too late?  Are you already feeling overwhelmed with all the clutter? That’s OK!  Remember: the feeling of being overwhelmed is an emotion.  Emotions are temporary. What feels like certain crushing death at the moment will not feel that way a day from now, a week from now or even one beer from now.

  3. Compartmentalize and prioritize your tasks

    It is nearly impossible to focus on a singular task if you assign yourself one million things to do. Learn how to focus on small action items.  By completing small action items, you will experience the mental sensation of accomplishment. This accomplishment will motivate you to want to continue to the next task and continue to be successful.

  4. Unplug yourself from the matrix

    The reality is that Facebook, Twitter, TV, email and text messages will all still be there five minutes from now. Don’t be afraid to relax and decompress.  If you are one of those people who has to make or schedule time with yourself just to relax then this is of utmost importance.  Take 10 minutes in the morning or 10 minutes at night and just stop in your tracks.  Do something for yourself that helps you slow down your life for a minute. Whether it’s meditation, relaxing in a chair or playing with a pet do something that takes you away from all the craziness.

  5. Perform a mental data dump

    Your brain is an over-filled closet that has been stuffed to capacity. You can try to keep packing things in, but eventually it will overflow and fall all over you. What do we get when this happens?  Ding ding! An even bigger mess than what we started with!  Get thoughts out of your mind and put them somewhere else. Put them on paper, make a list of to-do items, write in a journal, write on a blog or delegate a task to a friend or family member.  Do whatever you need to do to get it out of your mind and make room. Sometimes this is easier said than done, but that does not mean you should use that as your excuse. It can always start with you taking action.

Everyone’s mind is different.  We both know no guide is ever going to decrypt the intricacy that is your mind. Find out what works for you using these helpful tips. Remember I want you to take action.  Just do something. The size of the action does not matter. Throw away a soda can or throw a sock from the ground in a laundry bin. By taking action, we are displacing our inner demons and combating our negative emotions.  When we displace negative emotions we are filled with the sensation of accomplishment and success.


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How do you focus when you are overwhelmed?

“Focus is so difficult for me. There always seems to be a million things that need to get done, or that I should be doing better.” – Twitter friend on @davidaimi

This statement puzzled me. As I sympathized and dissected what this person said I thought “well why on earth do you have a million things to get done?!”  How on earth would this person be able to focus when there is just so much going on?  I think the answer is obvious, you can’t.

The more I thought about it the more it inspired me to write this blog post. Listed below are some ways you can better manage what you should be focusing on:

Trim the fat and do less

It sounds like a “duh” statement, but I really mean it.  Stop doing so much.  The broader you stretch yourself the thinner you will be. Start narrowing down your interests and tasks. (Assuming you can, obviously I’m not recommending you to neglect picking up your child from daycare!) Let’s say you have ten things on your plate.  Next, group them together as best possible and see if you can eliminate at least half of them.  Focus on the things that matter the most to you right now. By doing this, you will accomplish more and avoid spreading yourself too thin. The key to focus is narrowing your focal points to what matters most.

If you always look at things with the attitude “I have to get things done”, you probably will never do them.

When you view all the things you would like to do from a start to finish perspective you often instantly depress yourself which in turn cripples your motivation. It’s hard to see the end zone when you instantly overwhelm yourself. This sets up the dominoes for interest depletion, abandonment and failure. Take micro actions instead, remember action conquers fear. Give yourself small iterative goals that will eventually make up the bigger picture you are seeking.

The feeling of being overwhelmed is temporary

Ever feel like you’re going to lose your mind, but all of a sudden you have that magical beer or glass of wine and suddenly you don’t seem  to worry as much anymore?  That’s because being overwhelmed is a temporary emotion. It will come and go, and sometimes it’s best that we just step out of the room for a few minutes and cool off.

If you want true focus, stop everything else you are doing and focus on just one thing

This may be difficult if you are already feeling overwhelmed and inundated with everything you want to do, but just give it a shot.  Drop what you are doing and focus on one thing at a time.  It doesn’t even matter if you finish, just narrow your focus to one micro action. Taking small iterative actions will boost your confidence and you will feel that you are making progress. You may have one focus that is itching you the most, and that is the one that you should scratch first.

Perfect over time, not all at once

Don’t overload yourself with being a perfectionist the first time around. I know many of you out there will argue that it’s in your DNA and you can’t help being a perfectionist. I get it, but try to reprogram yourself. Let your mind know we are still aiming for perfection. (Because it’s true, we are)  The difference is that we want to make an effort to iterate to perfection versus driving ourselves crazy and derailing focus. It took Thomas Edison 1,000 tries to create the light bulb.  He was successful because he iterated and perfected over time, not because he focused on scenario countless times.

Stop making excuses for your inaction

It sounds harsh, but maybe it’s time you just be honest with yourself.  Take a few minutes and have an honest conversation with yourself.  Are you REALLY that interested in doing all these things right now?  Can some of them be re-prioritized later on for the sake of sanity?

Clutter is to the mind like hair is to the drain

What happens when our minds become so overwhelmed?  It gets clogged up and shit just overflows. It’s all bad. Try to declutter some things around you. It can be something as stupid as finally throwing away that coca-cola can that’s been sitting on your desk for 3 months that you’ve always meant to throw away. We often have trouble focusing because we let clutter build up around us.  The same thing goes for our minds.

You may be a digital nomad or have a split mentality

Have you ever stopped to think that maybe how your mind works will never change?  Do you have issues with lack of focus because you just have so many interests at any given time?  You could have what I call a split mentality. Do you require constant challenge, creative stimulation and change? Do you struggle with singularity and have a fear of committing to only one career for the rest of your life? You may just be someone who is multi-passionate.

In my opinion, the best way to focus when you are overwhelmed is to take a step back and re-assess everything you’re doing. Trim the fat and re-prioritize. Grab a glass of wine or a beer and relax and take a break from being hard on yourself. After you’ve cooled off, do something small like remove clutter or complete a micro action to refuel your engine.

How do you focus when you are overwhelmed? I want to hear your thoughts!


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A digital nomad sitting on the side of a river bank

Break free from the cube, become a DIGITAL NOMAD

What is a digital nomad? Digital Nomads are individuals that leverage technology in order to work remotely and live an independent and nomadic lifestyle.

That means work wherever you want however you want. Sound too good to be true?  Well, it definitely is not! Bloggers, artists, writers and entrepreneurs all over the world have found a way to embrace this unique lifestyle.

So what is a digital nomad really?

  • People who refuse to work 9-5 jobs and be tied down to a forced work routine (See: Split Mentality)
  • Digital nomads have a goal of being entirely self-sufficient based on successful internet based businesses
  • Digital nomads often prefer to be untethered to any particular location.  Most digital nomads prefer to travel and expand their worldly knowledge of adventure and culture.
  • Simply put, digital nomads are extremely passionate and their passion exceeds a singular career archetype

I know we all say we’d love to do something like this, perhaps over cocktails at a party and murmur how it would be nice just to get up and leave and travel the world. Or how it would be nice to start a business and be your own boss.  So why don’t we follow our passions?

Meet Jenny, a digital nomad in progress

Jenny has a Ph.D. in Science.  She has dedicated over 10 years of her life buried in books and working in labs. Despite these many years of education and career, Jenny chose to abandon the science lab and embrace the path of becoming a digital nomad. If that isn’t passion I don’t know what is.

So what did Jenny do differently? She took several steps that transitioned her away from her singular career path. These steps include:

  • Creating squarehippie.com
    SquareHippie.com is a lifestyle blog dedicated to her passions of travel and being a digital nomad.
  • Creating The Digital Nomad Challenge
    She created a challenge for herself that will help ensure her success to full digital nomad freedom. She keeps track of all her goals and makes everything quantifiable. She evaluates different freelance jobs and tasks and evaluates if they are financially viable for her goal. If one process doesn’t pay well enough or pan out she doesn’t get discouraged. Based on her process of elimination she edges closer every day to becoming a true self-sufficient digital nomad.  How cool is that? I encourage you all to visit her page and join her in her challenge.

As you can see it doesn’t matter what your background is, where you came from, what degree you have or how much money you have.  Your passions should ultimately drive the life you lead.

Embracing the life of a digital nomad can absolutely be accomplished as you can see by Jenny’s story. Get out there and try the digital nomad challenge!