Lately, I’ve been ruminating on a topic that’s been bothering me. Throughout the duration of my childhood, I never learned how to work hard, mainly well because I never needed to. I’m guessing in this generation of youth I’m not alone. (at least I hope not.) I’ve been listening to popular entrepreneurs over the years touting the same old rag to riches story:
Forgive me for my absence, I know it has been a while. I’ve had several personal hurdles that I’ve had to overcome over the past year and let’s just say I’m not the best at track & field. Get ready as you may soon rejoice, for I am back. I decided to bring Split Mentality back to its roots. I felt the blog had developed several identities, oddly enough none of which I really felt were my own.
How to Travel the World
Have you ever wondered how to travel the world? Have you had the urge but just simply don’t know where to start? Enter the eBook “Backpacking 101” by Nick Darlington, a world traveler with a dream. Nick like many adults felt complacent in his current life. Working your standard 9-5 job and making a decent salary was just not cutting it for him. After months of planning, Nick finally took the leap and traveled the world, documenting his travels and experiences.
In positive form, perfectionism can drive you to excel, succeed, reach goals and push the limits of your creative boundaries. In toxic form, it can push you to depression, anxiety and frustrate your day-to-day interests by creating more problems.
Let me introduce you to a friend of mine named Ben. Ben is a great, extremely talented and creative individual. He always will reach out to me with his “next great idea”. He has great ideas and I’m always interested in hearing what he has to say. These ideas are exceptional in nature–typically they range from a unique product idea or some type of new growth opportunity he seeks for himself. There is, however, a caveat. Ben puts the except in exceptional. In that, he does everything except follow through with his new idea. (Sorry Ben!)
We’ve all had that morning–we wake up, look at the ceiling, flail our legs and arms in frustration and throw the cover back over our heads.
We all do it, especially on days where we’re unhappy or not looking forward to doing something. There are some days where we just struggle to find purpose in getting up. Some days we simply just don’t want to get up and follow the day’s routine.It was this action one morning that made me question what purpose really is.
The passionate career is a myth. Stop ruining your passions by forcing them into career archetypes.
Let me ask you a question. Do you like to go out to the bar or occasionally spend a night on the town? I know I do. Does that mean that just because I like going to the bar I should work at one professionally? How about a co-worker who enjoys baking cakes? Because she enjoys baking is she then supposed to go and open a bakery? The answer is no. Unless of course you really want to. Why do we feel the need to link things we enjoy with things we get paid to do for work?
Lately, I feel like the universe is conspiring against me.
We’ve all felt this way before. That feeling where nothing seems to work out, and you can never seem to catch a break. Whether it be our relationships or where we stand financially, there are times when we worry we carry more weight than we think we can hold. I woke up this morning with a raincloud of doom and gloom. One of my projects I’d been working on wasn’t operating as well as I’d hoped. “Why can’t something just work in my favor for ONCE?” I yelled to myself. Woe is me. I laid in bed with fussy child-like misery for about 30 minutes before grumpily getting up for the day.
You will never become rich working a 9-5 job.
Hear me out on this. How much is your time worth to you? The reality is those of us who work 40-80 work weeks seldom have time to do anything other than drink wine and complain. Regardless of the salary we make, time is both the ultimate currency and investment. It is something we can give but never gain. If we are working 80% of the time and living 20% of the time guess what? Our model for living life is broken. This needs to change.
Clutter is to the mind is like hair is to the drain, and when it overflows it’s all bad.
What happens when a drain becomes clogged? Stuff just overflows. What happens when our minds become cluttered? We stop being productive. We lose focus. We burn ourselves out or procrastinate tasks often leaving us with little to nothing done. It’s all bad. Managing clutter is more difficult than just saying I will do better next time. Clutter is deceptive. It starts small and much like a virus it begins to spread. So how do we manage clutter more efficiently?
“Focus is so difficult for me. There always seems to be a million things that need to get done, or that I should be doing better.” – Twitter friend on @davidaimi
This statement puzzled me. As I sympathized and dissected what this person said I thought “well why on earth do you have a million things to get done?!” How on earth would this person be able to focus when there is just so much going on? I think the answer is obvious, you can’t.