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Help people better understand who you are

No matter how you identify yourself (multipotentialite, scanner, renaissance person, split mentality or no label at all), you will always be faced with opposition and criticism because of how your mind works.

When trying to explain to someone you function and think differently than others, do you often get these types of responses?

  • The person says nothing, but secretly just thinks you’re lazy.
  • The person says something condescending, implying that we would “all like to just do whatever we wanted every day. But some of us have to work for a living”
  • A person makes a comment about immaturity and that you need to grow up.
  • The person immediately takes offense because they think you are somehow implying you are better or smarter than they are.
  • A person may humor your belief on your mentality, but when angered or frustrated they admit they really don’t understand you.

Don’t get mad at people for this—it’s just part of how society has everyone wired. We are wired differently because we struggle with normality, but by no means does that make us better than anyone else. In fact, it’s actually the opposite.  Most of us have struggled our entire lives because of how our mind works.

The easiest way to help people relate to you is by identifying struggle.  Sounds horrible, but it’s effective.  

  • Explain to people your inner conflict of doing repetitive tasks and the inner anguish it causes you.  One example could be how you literally can’t sleep some nights because you don’t want to be at your current job.  There were times I struggled with sleep because I knew the second I would fall asleep the sooner I had to get up for work, and this would keep me up all hours of the night.
  • Lacking central focus is part of our everyday life. Today is Monday and I want to be a web designer.  Today is Tuesday and I want to open up a restaurant business.  Our passions can literally change by the minute and that can be extremely frustrating for us and also difficult to explain to others. Further, explain how this is not laziness, and that we simply can’t control these urges as they are a part of our inner wiring. This is because those with a split mentality struggle with the concept of singularity. We don’t believe we were truly meant for just one purpose.
  • You have what I call the cafeteria complex.  At any given time, your mind has a tremendous amount of mental noise, and distinguishing lucid clear thoughts from your cloudy mind can be difficult. This can affect our day to day judgement, willpower and rational thought.

We are all born with flaw and imperfection, and by opening up your flaws people they will both better understand you and relate to you.  (Even if they still don’t really get your mentality)

Are they now generally concerned for you?  Uh-oh.  Maybe it’s time we steer them towards some positives things.

  • You are a jack of all trades.  Basically, you rock.  You are talented at several different activities and often would never label yourself.  You tell people titles like designer, architect or entrepreneur because they are ambiguous enough to cover numerous passions.
  • You are a sprinter. When you are passionate about something for a duration of time you are unstoppable.  You are the incredible hulk.  You will dig, exploit, learn and do whatever that task at hand requires with intensity until your fuel burns out and you lose interest.
  • Your brain speed learns.  Because of your natural “sprinting” abilities listed above you often start new things.  You learn, adapt, implement and apply fast.  This typically makes you a very valuable asset to have around during times of critical thinking.
  • You always seek to better yourself. You always want to improve yourself.  You love to learn and to design.  You seek adventure on your terms.  Being stationary mentally is not a hobby of yours.  Your mind is always on the go and consistently needs new challenges to survive.

One thing to remember is that there are just some people out there you will never eye-to-eye with, and that is perfectly OK. You are the one alone in your own mind and being happy with yourself is what is most important.

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  • Jo Haney

    I identify with all of these traits, with a helping of you must conform. I excelled at conforming. I went to an all girl High School, Riverdale, if you weren’t going to college you learned skills that would allow you to get an office job full time, health insurance and paid vacation at 17. Typing, Office Machines, Dictaphone, adding machine, record keeping, accounting, Xerox, filing, not to mention data processing with cobalt programming. I learned everything I needed to know to live among the people who knew what their passion was in high school. I simply could not see wasting time in college not being passionate about something they offered. I was supposed to be, right. Now that I am 59 and using what I learned in high school for the next few years until I can retire, I feel that this method of faking it created a sort of ptsd in that I have been doing this repetitive motion for so long, I hate and fear it.

    The next stage of my life will be dedicated to the me I truly am. I am in awe of the things I don’t know and I will continue to keep my mind open to everything, everyone, and embrace the term you have eclectic taste, or gee you are really smart. Duh

  • “M”

    “One thing to remember is that there are just some people out there you will never eye-to-eye with, and that is perfectly OK.”

    Unless … you’re trying to get them to hire you?

    Or worse – you already work for them …?